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This is a tricky question, as many parents have differing views on what age is just right for transitioning their child to sleeping on their own. Continue reading to see what insights our readers had to offer.
Brandon Walsh

Brandon Walsh

Brandon Walsh, CEO at Dadsagree.com

Stop Bedsharing When Your Child Is One-Year-Old

Co-sleeping and bedsharing with your child are good for their safety and security, but this should stop very early in their age for their personal development and growth, both physical and psychological. Parents who share a bed or room with their children negatively affect the chances of their kid’s mental and physical well-being as they grow up.

Surveys and studies suggest that kids who sleep with their parents suffer from low self-esteem, high dependency, anxiety, low memory, and suffer from obesity as well. In the given scenario, I would suggest parents stop sleeping with kids when they reach one year of age, because this is the age when infants start to develop habits and their learning process starts to become more efficient. Sleeping with them after this age will make them develop a habit of depending on you for everything.

Teach Your Child Little by Little to Become Independent

Sharing a bed with your child can have a good impact since he can be attached with you more and he can be more secure and may sleep soundly beside you. When you reach the point where you think this is the time that you have to teach your son how to sleep in his own bed, consider it. Teach him little by little how to be independent especially if you are already working away from home.

Mo Mulla

Mo Mulla

Mo Mulla, Co-Founder of Parental Questions. He loves writing about his passions and hopes to change the world, one blog post at a time.
Julia M. Chamberlain

Julia M. Chamberlain

Julia M. Chamberlain, Licensed Child Therapist, and Writer for Choosing Therapy. She is a licensed mental health counselor who began working with children in 2006 at the Children’s Friend Organization in Worcester, MA.

Start the Transition by Age One

Co-sleeping with an infant can feel like the best way to keep the baby safe for many parents.

It is natural to feel that having your baby close to you is the best place for them. It also can feel daunting to explore all of the safety measures that relate to babies and toddlers about their sleep environment in efforts of preventing SIDS, suffocation, and other dangerous circumstances. Yet, some research suggests that co-sleeping can also carry risks and the AAP discourages co-sleeping, especially for children under 4 months of age.

This is in part due to concerns of suffocation as well as developing psychological issues such as depression, anxiety, and boundary issues as the baby matures. However, newer studies have suggested that babies who have co-slept with their parents during the newborn phase do not carry any additional risks of developing a mental health concern. However, by the age of one, a child should be transitioning into their own sleeping space to allow an emerging sense of self and foster independent, and solution-focused thinking long-term.

When we allow our children to share our space for too long, they run the risk of becoming codependent or enmeshed with parental figures. and this can damage their adjustment both short-term and long-term. If parents feel strongly that they wish to co-sleep with their baby, using a Moses basket in the bed between parents can be a safe alternative. Creating a plan for the child to transition to their own space by the age of one allows for the emergence of self-soothing and other solution-focused behaviors which are tied to well-adjusted adulthood.

Let Your Child Sleep on Their Own by Age Five

Parents should introduce sleeping in their own spaces as early as five years old. This is when they are fully grown, and still young enough to get used to the norm of having their bed and space. While there are situations that require co-sleeping, such as the lack of a bed and rooms, co-sleeping can cause your child to be very dependent on you, which may prevent them from growing up and learning things on their own.

Co-sleeping beyond five years old, can increase the chances of a child developing unhealthy habits such as refusing to consider the value of privacy, and being too needy. Also, the general rule of thumb is that when kids start to enter school, they should be more exposed to being independent to allow them to discover how they want things to work out for themselves and not always rely on their parents. This is when they can figure out things, and practice making decisions as well.

Sherry Morgan

Sherry Morgan

Sherry Morgan, Founder of Petsolino.
Eden Cheng

Eden Cheng

Eden Cheng, Founder of WeInvoice.

Stop Co-Sleeping with Your Baby at Age Two

Co-sleeping is often a common occurrence during the first two years of a baby’s life. This often involves either sharing a bed with the child or having their bed or crib in the same room. It is an essential method that is used by most parents to help kids feel less stressed at night. And while there is no question that there are numerous health benefits, it is always best to end co-sleeping by the end of age two at the latest. This is because the longer you wait to end the practice the more likely there will be long-term effects.

For one, it can often lead to your child suffering from a lack of self-soothing skills. This means that they will be unable to fall asleep on their own, which can often lead to an increased amount of stress and even risk of insomnia. Moreover, the child in question may end up having trouble forming relationships with other people in their adult life, because they ended up forming an extreme emotional attachment to their parents. It isn’t always the case, but it does happen, especially if the co-sleeping practice extends beyond the age of two.

Moreover, there is a chance that the child may end up with increased levels of anxiety and stress as they grow older and start to sleep on their own. Since they were so used to having someone to rely on when sleeping, once they start to transition to sleeping independently, they may start to struggle to calm themselves down, even as an adult.

There is also a chance that the child’s general development will be stunted as they get older and struggle to form their own identity. This is because while most children learn to independently develop their own identities, if the child continues to co-share the bed with their parent, that cannot happen.

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