They Are Your Favorite Reason to Lose Sleep…
But nothing quite prepares you for the reality of how a newborn sleeps. The fog, haze, and lack of recollection I have of those first few weeks allow me to say that I too have been where you are.
Wondering if it’s possible to get your newborn napping longer & sleeping better overnight?
I’ll answer that question for you in a minute…but first, I want you to do something for me.
I want you to take a moment and imagine a morning in the not-too-distant future where you are lying in bed and pop over to check the monitor because it’s been quiet and the sun is coming up.
The silence must mean something is wrong.
It’s the morning.
And it’s still quiet. You fly out of bed and into their room, only to discover, yet, still sleeping soundly.
They did it.
They slept straight through the night. Not a peep.
Tell me how your newborn baby sleeping makes you feel?
Relieved? Happy? Anxious? Proud?
Whatever that emotion is, I am here to tell you that it’s a reality and within your reach.
And I want to get started right now. Trust me, even as a newborn, sleep is a skill that children can learn.
Keep reading, I promise it gets better.
Newborns won’t sleep through the night. (I suppose there will always be 1 parent who messages me and tells me I am wrong, and that their newborn slept 12 hours from the day they came home. If that’s you great, then you shouldn’t have found this page.)
Newborns need quite a lot of sleep and quite a lot to eat. The average intake for a newborn is 24 oz – 32 oz in a given 24 hour period.
Based on the daily feedings, waking at night to eat is totally normal until between 3 & 4 months old.
Why? Because their little stomach simply isn’t big enough to hold enough milk to last the whole night.
However, I am going to share a simple statement no one is told or taught.
Sleep is a skill that a newborn baby can learn without the need to “Cry-it-Out”
Everyone can learn new skills, they just have to be shown how to do it, gently and with no crying-it-out necessary. Sleep is a jigsaw puzzle that we solve together, uniquely with your sweet new bundle of joy. I can teach you how to create a solid sleep foundation, coach you through these hard first weeks and get everyone into a terrific groove.
I work with a lot of newborn parents, who want to take control of their families sleep now and for that I applaud you. Many families will wait and wait and wait, believing that things HAVE to improve.
For many families it gets worse.
Especially at 4 months, when a lot of things change in your baby, causing sleep regressions and challenges that last months or even years.
If you follow the program I’m about to discuss with you, you’ll be giving your baby the skills they need to start sleeping through the night naturally, without tears or “crying it out” – There is no need.
(Yep, sleeping through the night, with no tears, by 4 months old.)
The Truth About a Lack of Sleep in Children
There are studies being published daily that discuss the impact of poor, broken sleep in children.
There are dangerous and long-term effects of sleep deprivation in children.
I am not here to scare you. Think about how you felt when you woke this morning. That’s how your child feels too, they just can’t express it in the same way we can. Chronic sleep loss is linked to diabetes, ADHD, depression, anxiety, night terrors and much more. (and I am happy to share lots of studies that come out daily across the medical community on this, just ask.)
How Do You Make Your Newborn into a Terrific Sleeper?
As long as you have someone showing you what to do every step of the way, you should expect to see a wonderful improvement in their sleep and patterns that start to emerge as they grow.
There are certain foundational things you can do today that are important for setting the right environment that helps baby sleep:
Watch the awake windows, newborns should only be awake 45-60 minutes between naps. An overtired baby will eat much worse and be harder to settle, as the hormones that are triggered make them unable to calm easily.
Have a bedtime routine that consists of perhaps a bath or warm washcloth to the face. A final feeding for the evening, a song or cuddle and then put them to bed. Creating this at birth is helpful for signaling sleep is coming for children, even when they are newborns. They learn this habit and begin to recognize sleep is coming.
Put your newborn to bed before they fall asleep. If the only way they know how to fall asleep is rocking to sleep, their dependency on rocking isn’t going anywhere and will become an expectation overnight to get them back to sleep when they wake in-between sleep cycles and after eating overnight.
Let your child “self-soothe” when they wake up at night. Falling to sleep independently is a skill, and — like any skill — it requires practice. So if you want your child to start sleeping through the night, you’re going to need to give them time to “put themselves back to sleep” when they wake up during the night. Does that mean tears and unnecessary crying of a newborn? NO. It means that you are giving them a minute, sometimes they are just sorting things out.
Ensure they take full-feeds every 3 hours (roughly) – to ensure they get as much nutrition during the day as possible, and perhaps wake 1 or 2 times for an overnight feed, then go back down to sleep.
Well, I teach parents this in many sessions, posts and conversations we have across my various platforms.
All newborn babies are different.
When we work with families, we look at a family’s goals, parenting approaches, sleep arrangements, temperament, and your little one’s personality. With our Prenatal & Newborn Sleep Programs, we work with you on all of your sleep questions.
This is not a one size fits all solution.
It is a high touch, private sleep coaching support, 1-on-1 every single day. If you want to tackle sleep from the start and avoid the struggle, learn more about our various sleep support options for your new bundle of joy.
Not Ready Quite Yet? Start here with our Free Newborn Sleep eBook
Over 30 pages of step-by-step information to help your newborn sleep.
Hi, I’m Courtney Zentz. You might recognize me from Fatherly, Romper, Tinyhood, Thrive Global, Yahoo or being a guest on partner’s media like the Merlin Magic Sleepsuit or Slumber Pod. Helping parents like you get their children sleeping through the night has become my passion.
I have an undergraduate degree in Finance and my Master’s in Marketing. After 12 years in Corporate America, I wanted more authenticity in my life. (My quarter-life crisis as I call it…) What you will care about is that I am a Pediatric Sleep Specialist, Lactation Counselor, Postpartum Doula, and I am an active member of the Association of Professional Sleep Consultants, just to name a few. I’ve been invited to present at conferences, speak to large Fortune 500 Corporations with many tired parents and make regular appearances on Podcasts® across the realm of parenting.
But the thing I’m MOST proud of (besides my own 2 beautiful children Max & Sovella,) is the fact that I’ve been able to help families all over the world to solve the very same sleep questions that you’re having right now with your child.
They are new, life with you is new, and they are on their very own journey in this big new world.
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